Around here we go hard with self-love because, well, it’s like magic. But, self-love isn’t just about the spa days, getaways and salon appointments (although those things definitely help!) It’s about stepping into your authentic self with compassion, gratitude, acceptance and love. Having an awareness of who and what you are, letting go of judgment and fully embracing the beauty of YOU. All of you, Vixen.

Here are 3 habits to start creating that self-love magic in your life. Start today and let the magic begin to unfold.

Habit #1: Make the Time to Love Yourself

I say this all the time, self-love must be intentional. Life is busy and full of excessive and endless distractions. Between work, kids, spouses/partners, friends and family, household chores and all the in between it can feel like an overwhelming feat to even think about making time for self-love. Believe me, I get it.

Lucky for us, self-love doesn’t need to be a rigid practice with a specific amount of time, done in a specific way or even done the same way every day. Practicing self-love means listening to your Inner Vixen, listening to your body, checking in and honoring your needs and then actually giving yourself what you need. We tend to forget that last part too often.

Self-love is creating moments in the madness for a few deep breaths, a 5 min disconnect, a moment to ground and re-focus. It’s a quick “Hey Vixen I love you, I’m proud of you, damn you’re killin it today, I’m grateful for this day” quietly or loudly to yourself.

Self-love doesn’t have to be structured in any special way. Just find a way to make it work for you! Of course having a routine is amazing and it’s great to strive for this but in the meantime, honoring what you need throughout the day is key.

I’m a mom of 3 little boys so the responsibilities literally never end. I call it “The Endless” lol. Self-love practices and check-ins throughout my day are critical for me to show up as my best self for the special people who depend on me 24/7. Although I have a solid ritual in place some days I just have to be flexible and focused so overwhelm and anxiety don’t take over.

Habit #2: Healthy Boundaries

Creating healthy boundaries can take work but it’s so worth it. In today’s world, society seems to glamorize this idea of busyness. There’s nothing glamorous or sexy about being overworked, burnt out and depleted. And busy definitely does not equal productive.

What is sexy is knowing when to stop and pause, listening to your body when it’s time to rest and recharge and when it’s time to quiet the noise. What’s even sexier is saying NO when you know you need to say NO and not feeling guilty about it. You can’t pour from an empty cup Vixen, so filling your already full plate with more stuff, then stressing about it and creating anxiety, is a big no no. Just say no when you know you need to.

With healthy boundaries in place it’s easier to flow with life and not try to control every aspect. You can keep stress to a minimum by creating boundaries, maintaining balance and listening to your body.

Habit #3: Speak Life

If there’s one thing you take away from this post it’s SPEAK LIFE OVER YOURSELF. Your words create your reality, they’re like spells you cast over your life. Make a conscious effort to be aware of your thoughts and the words you speak. If you find yourself in a negative or self destructive thought pattern, catch it and change it.

Instead of dwelling on what you don’t want, ask yourself “what would I love to happen right now instead, what would I prefer or what do I want? Focus on your desires, right them down, journal. Shift your energy into a more positive state and raise your vibration.

Remaining in a negative thought pattern means you’re in a low vibration, which means you’re attracting low vibrational people, situations and circumstances into your life. Not good.

The universe responds to your thoughts and feelings so if you don’t like what you’re currently experiencing change your thoughts and your words. Make a conscious effort to mind your narratives, especially about yourself, Vixen. Remember you’re created in the image of God so respect and honor that.

How you love yourself determines how you show up for yourself and signals to others how to show up for you.

Which habit do you feel called to start with? Is there a particular area of your life that needs some love and attention? How could you show up better for yourself?

Let me know in the comments!

Love & Blessings,

Vyxn